I've never been so eager to close the door on a year as much as I have for Year 2014. Physically, this was our hardest year ever. Emotionally, our second hardest. I'd wear an "I survived 2014" T-shirt…if…so many had not. I'd laugh away the year, if it hadn't been such a damn serious one.

Let's just face it, 2014 sucked.

Thanksgiving week marked the first two-month period since June 2013 that I wasn't inside a hospital, rehab center, or a long-term facility. Not for me, but for two dear octogenarians. 2014's midpoint was exceptionally low when at the end of June, both of them were in different hospitals, on opposite sides of the city, during the same week.

My mom's partner passed away in September, she was at his bedside, as she was with my father in 2005 - the culmination of weeks upon weeks of daily hospital visits and care she provided to her "third husband" (love in our later years is complicated). Having spent most of 2014 doing everything I could to make it easier for them to be together, this loss felt deeply unfair. The most I could muster was a tweet.

After about fifteen months of intermittent caregiving, with at least eight emergency room trips at three different hospitals, a few weeks in ICUs, and a few months in four different care facilities, things are less hectic now.

Throughout this time, we managed a few big wins with the house. I planned to carve some time during the holidays to catch up on a year's worth of blog posts...then...the flu-mageddon.

I think this year more than any I learned the value of presence, of physicality. A kind word, a card, a phone call…all of those actions matter so much. But a helping hand, whether to steady a gait or to haul a dozen boxes, that's invaluable. We never know what to say or what to do during times of crisis, especially when it involves our parents. But having been through this three times now, I can say: just be there. The rest will work itself out. Yes, it's awkward at first, and uncomfortable, and distressing, and intrusive, and confusing, and painful. Just be there anyway.

So perhaps I'm being a little too hard on 2014, as difficult as a year it was, we learned to yield to chaos, disorder, change, and to gratitude.

And we discovered a deeper appreciation of the mundane.

Over a few weeks in fall we finally caught up on Sherlock. In S1:E2, The Blind Banker, Watson looks for a job after the war - this passage is gold:

  • Sarah: You're, um, well you're a bit over-qualified.

  • Watson: I could always do with the money.

  • Sarah: Well we've got two on holiday this week and one's just left to have a baby. Might be a bit mundane for you.

  • Watson: Ah no, mundane is good sometimes. Mundane works.

I always loved the feeling of starting with a clean slate for New Year's. Not so much this time, 2014 will be with us for awhile longer as we still want to document some before-and-afters, if only just for us. I don't want to let those memories go even if they represent some of 2014's less important events.

And as it turns out, mundane is good for you - documenting life's trivial moments may enhance memory and wellbeing.

So that is our New Year's wish for all: may 2015 be filled with thousands of the tiniest...most delicious...and loveliest...mundane little moments. May you find time to write about them, and we'll try to do the same. Let's celebrate the mundane. xoxo.

12/31/14; 01:35:37 PM

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By Betsy Kimak, Wednesday, December 31, 2014 at 1:35 PM.